This past weekend, I went to Borders to meet up with a writer buddy/mommy friend of mine. We let it all out and talked about any and everything: the kids, the husband, the career, our fears, our hopes and dreams, our desires.
We made good conversation for more than three hours, barely noticing the darkening sky outside. It was heavenly. I was able to get some things off my chest, help my friend get a better glimpse of herself and her bright future, and just spend some time child-free and husband-free.
It felt so good we decided to make this a monthly thing.
Afterward, I walked to my car, unlocked the door and got in. As I went to flick on my headlights, I hesitated, because I realized I wasn’t sure which button to push or which lever to pull.
I realized I hadn’t been in my car at night in quite some time. I’m always home before the sun set. Always.
During the 10-minute drive home, all types of thoughts went through my head. How happy I was to be able to share with a friend who is also a writer, a mom, a wife, and who went to the same school as I did. How energized I felt, knowing that the kids would be asleep when I got home and the whole bedtime struggle/dance/routine would be delayed for another night. How wonderful it felt to just be a woman.
Truthfully? I can’t wait for the next one. It re-energized me, when I was struggling as a mom and a wife and an employee. I needed that “me time” to reflect on how much my life has changed. Sounds cliche, but it helped me be a better mom.
What about you? Do you have something that serves as a “girls night out”? How do you release stress?
Wow! That sounds so wonderful. I haven’t had one of those in I don’t know how long. My son is 15months. I have my relaxing moments when he’s sleep and hubby is at work, but not a chance to go out. I’m glad you had a good time. Everyone needs a break.
@Tricia – Those 3 hours changed my whole outlook on life. I had become this diaper-changing, breakfast-making, lunch-packing, horrid commute-having, dinner-rushing, clothes washing machine and I forgot about ME. What I like to do for fun. How I unwind. I can’t wait until my next Moms Night Out.
You should definitely go out in the next few weeks. Seriously. If it makes you feel better, wait until your son is asleep and then go to the movies by yourself or something. It’s invigorating.
my best friend and i have a girls day/night out at least once per month. sometimes we get together during the day and go for lunch and coffee. we give each other care packages and exchange stuff like books and other household items. we try to do girls night out but it’s hard to get sitters but even that is a lot of fun. it’s nice to dress up a little and go out kid free. make it a must. i always feel better after and i know she does too.