This Sunday I was trying to figure out what I was going to do while my kids took their afternoon nap. Do I take a nap or do I use this time to get a quick workout in?
So I went to bed. (I told you, I’m lazy.)
As I lay in bed, I turned the TV to give me something to block out the kids’ cries if they woke up before I was fully ready to wake up – am I the only mom who does that? LOL.
I wound up watching Kendra on E. For those of you who don’t know about the show, Kendra is about, well, Kendra Wilkinson, former girlfriend to Hugh Hefner and now wife to Hank Bassett, NFL player, and new mommy to Hank Bassett IV. (Maybe you remember her from the show Girls Next Door?)
In this episode, she just had the baby and as a former Playboy darling, she was very upset about her new figure. Here she has a breakdown when her Playboy friends come by and try to hang out with her:
In that moment, I felt I could relate. Who hasn’t been there? Who hasn’t looked at themselves in the mirror after having a kid and wondered, “Hmm, am I ever going to look normal?” The only problem is, I wasn’t a former Playboy chick, and I didn’t have former and current Playboy friends hanging around in my living room to bask in my postpartum glory. I think I would’ve freaked out, too.
I posed the question on our Facebook page – is Kendra just like us? – and some moms were divided. “She has money for a chef and a trainer,” one mom said. “Hecks, no, she’s not like us.” Another mom said, “Even Playboy women have their issues too.”
I’m somewhere in the middle. I didn’t think I could relate to Kendra when she was bopping all over the Playboy mansion, size 2, blonde, perky. But now that she’s a mom – thats something that equalizes you.
We all deal with sleep deprivation. We all deal with babies that cry for no reason other than to let out some energy. We all deal with swollen ankles, or hair that sheds or boobs that sag or feet that are crying out for a good long foot rub. We all wonder what motherhood will do to our relationships – our husbands, our boyfriends, our future dates if we’re single. We have mood swings. We cry. We often lack the energy to go out. Our sex drive might disappear.
Being a new mom is being a new mom. It can be rough. It is definitely tiring. But we all manage to get through it, together. We all manage to make it to the kid’s first birthday and throw a party that is more for ourselves than for the kid.
I’m all about including EVERYONE on this site – poor mom, rich mom, single mom, married mom, college educated mom, a mom with a GED, etc. If you are a young mom, then you deserve to have a place here.
But that is my opinion – what’s yours? Do young moms like Kendra need love too?
I completely agree with you. All moms need love, no matter what their background or status or age. You may have things figured out or going for you in every other area of life, and then here comes baby, and you are in a totally new element. One that does not have instructions, although there are a billion experts who think they have all the answers, ourselves included, lol. I guess what I’m trying to say is that learning how to mother only comes with experience and support, and whatever the situation, well off or not, ALL moms, especially new moms need love.
It’s funny that you mention Kendra. Watching her show is a guilty pleasure of mine and I relate to her. Went in for an induction and ended up with C-section. Her son was born 2 hours after mine. But anyway, watching that episode I did feel bad for her. Yes, she has a lot of money and has access to trainers but she’s still a woman. Just like any of us her self-esteem took a hit when she compared her new body to her old. Wondering will she ever get her pre-pregnancy body back. Does her husband really think she’s still beautiful. Poor, rich, famous, whatever, a mom is still a mom.
Well of course all moms need love!! But, I don’t really have a high opinion of anyone who goes on a reality show. (I’ve never watched this show, but I know who she is.) Regardless of that, you’re right. We’re all moms and we all have issues after that baby comes out. Our lives are changed completely! For her, she is used to being a size 2, so it really is a shock to have the extra weight. Just because she is famous and skinny, I don’t discount her feelings.
All Moms need love. But it is misleading when the rich/celebrity moms have a baby and then 6 weeks later they walk down the red carpet looking like super models. We have to keep in mind that they have a staff to help them train and work out for hours a day and chefs and nannys…etc..
But they still need love too!!!
Sure, there are differences among mothers, in their lifestyles and incomes and situations, but I think what’s more important is what they share — they have the same hopes and fears and vulnerabilities. I’m glad you see it that way too!
I was one of those moms who stated that I honestly dont feel that Kendra and I have anything in common now that she is a Mother. But that doesn’t mean that she as a new young mom doesn’t deserve love. I dont know Kendra dont know her history, but from what I see from the media and her show…life is not that trying for her. I mean she has a television show, shes semi-famous, she has a celebrity boyfriend..so how similar are we?
I think every female has body issues whether your a size 2 or 15. Pregnancy is tough on our bodies, and for most of us our bodies dont just bounce back. Your right we all go through our own little crying sessions about how our bodies look after we have kids. I’m stuck wondering if my boobs will every be perky again lol and if i can ever wear a 2 piece bikini because of my battle scars covering my ass and stomach..but i suffer in silence. Kendra’s pain is blasted on television…but it’s by her choice. So yes, Kendra does deserve love and I as a mother struggling with body issues can slightly relate to some of the body issues Kendra is facing, but can I say we are similar? Nopers.
Everyone deserve to be love. No races exception because in this world, we live fairly. In the eyes of God, there is no rich and poor. We all the same.