You remember I write for the Massachusetts Alliance on Teen Pregnancy, right? We (me and a group of other fabulous bloggers) write about issues that impact young parents. If you haven’t checked it out yet, I strongly recommend you do!
Natasha always writes great posts and this one from July 19 really stuck out to me. Sounds like something I would have written!
There are a lot of things I have never experienced and never will because I decided to become a young parent. These include: no dorm rooms, no campus life, no spontaneous wild nights, no partying at my house, and no random road trips.
Honestly, the word “spontaneous” completely changes after becoming a mother. Spontaneous may be a decision to drive to an apple orchard or the zoo tomorrow. Maybe, spontaneous is when I open the freezer and pull out ice cream sandwiches!
However, for the first few months, I lived vicariously through my friends’ adventures as I sat at home breastfeeding. Slowly, it occurred to me that these adventures were not as thrilling to me as I expected. All the things I was sacrificing, started to look less great. I enjoy being a mommy.
Nevertheless, young mothers do make sacrifices that are frequently overlooked. We give up all the things people say adolescents should experience before entering adulthood, so we can be better moms – the new generation of moms.
Check out the rest of the post here.
Yes! This also sounds like something I would have written. Although I didn’t have to give up “college life,” giving up the life after the college years felt like a HUGE sacrifice for me. I have been reading the post from this site and you gals are doing a fantabulous job! Way to go!
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I was catching up on your blog today and was happy to see this.
Thank you so much!
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I didn’t have my kids until I was in my 30’s and I was able to experience all of the things you mention, and THEN become a mom. I don’t think i look back on it with any regrets and I have a feeling if it was the other way around I would have convinced myself that I wasn’t missing out on anything. We can’t have it both ways, so it’s hard to tell, you know? I am the person I am because of those years- lots of wisdom, strength and growth came from those years. I’m a much better parent for it.