by Amber Wright of TheYeyoDiaries.com
Motherhood is a beautiful journey. But it can also be very lonely at times and right now happens to be one of those times for me. My closest friends are loving and supportive, but almost all of them are single and none of them are moms. There’s so much about my life that they can’t relate to now that I have a child. And when you become a mom, what you crave most is for someone that simply “gets” what your new life is all about.
The concept of remembering to freeze teething rings, decoding the mystery of vanishing pacifiers, and dealing with the stench of poopy diapers is so foreign to my non-mommy friends. Some days I feel like my life is a museum exhibit on motherhood and marriage. Visitors stroll through, marvel at the works of art, and then go home. I’m quite happy with my life and I don’t resent my single friends or their lifestyles in any way. Sometimes though, it’s hard not to feel like the “odd man out.”
To cure my current case of the mommy life lonelies, I have resolved to spend more time developing relationships with other women with lives that are similar to mine. I reached out to a friend from college that had a baby around the same time I did, and we’ve gone on a few play dates. My blog has also served as a great platform to meet other married mamas in my area (I’ve only met one so far, but hey…it’s a start!).
Fostering new relationships takes time and you have to proceed with caution. But I think that’s why (at least for me) sites like the YML are so important. To read a post and see yourself in it, whether it be about how babies affect your marriage, your career, your sanity, or your whatever…means the world! When I read these stories and see all that we have in common, I feel less like a museum curator and more like a real person.
And for that, I thank you all for sharing in the journey!
I agree, sometimes, being a mommy can truly feel lonely. I too have no friends with babies, and no close family members with babies at all. And going through the terrible twos is just is just simply..well…tough. But I agree I love this blog and others that make me feel not so lonely. I know that when I have my second in 4 months I can log on and share my non sleeping woes with the net
Thanks for the post!
I totally know where you’re coming from. It was so hard for me not to feel lonely amongst my own friends once I became a mom. Our lives seemed so different. But talking about it helped. And helps. And making friends with other moms (online and IRL) helps too. But one thing that I’ve learned to love is that although our lives are different, we can still be friends and I can use the time that I have with them as my “kid-free” time. Gotta love that.
great post. I know the feeling. I’m right there with you. It seems most of my friends that have kids live in other states. You’re doing great at building new relationships, if I do say so myself buddy! I love the analogy of being a museum. That’s a great way to explain it.
Yup, I’ve been there. I had to write a blog post about it a few months ago because it felt so overwhelming.
I totally agree with this. All of my girlfriends that I grew up with are single with no kids. I also stay home now so it can get lonely. I have linked up with some mom’s from church and joined a MOPS group in my area and that helps a lot. I also appreciate my virtual blogging friends.
That is how I am feeling right now. But i was the last of my friends to have a kid, but it feels sometimes like I have no life and I know I do. I tried joining a group of single parents who were to meet up, but the person when throw together last minute meet up, and i couldnt make them. Nothing has happen with the group in 3 months. I this has been a problem I am still trying to resolve.
You’re right.. mommyhood can be very lonely at times..We as mothers NEED AND CRAVE interactions with other parents! Hang in there chica!
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