First off, let me say that yes, it is possible to be sexy as a stay-at-home (or in my case, a work-at-home) mom.
I think.
I’m pretty sure.
Since I don’t have many meetings (like three a year, maybe), I tend to stick to my work-at-home uniform: leggings and long T-shirt or tunic. If I’m feeling the need to be a little funky, I’ll throw on some earrings and/or some bracelets.
I made the mistake of taking my kids up to their dad’s job to see him and I was struck by how underdressed I felt, and I had on one of my “cute” outfits: black tank top with gold jeweled detail at the collar, black leggings, metallic sandals and an olive green cardigan thrown over it. Like, this is as cute as I get and I’m still not feeling as fierce among the other ladies? Oh boy.
I typically don’t worry about I look during the day, when I’m bound to run into anything. The other day, my son decided to open up all my packets of Swiss Miss hot chocolate and make a “cake” on my kitchen floor. Fun.
I make dinner in comfy clothes, because I don’t like when I walk away from the stove and I still smell like whatever I was cooking. So when my husband comes home, he’ll usually find me in a T-shirt and jeans (on a “cute” day) or leggings (a regular day).
But I want to look cute. I notice that when I get up and actually throw on “real” clothes, my day feels a little bit easier. It’s a bit easier to wake up, to get my day started, and to stay on task. My job as a mom feels more like a “job”—it’s a little less thankless.
Am I the only one who finds when I “dress up” a bit while I’m at home that I’m a little happier? Speak your piece in the comments below.
I agree! My “cute” outfit is a maxi dress or shorts and tank/tee. Otherwise, I’m in my PJ’s all day. My husband told me that he hates it when he comes home and sees me in the same thing he saw me in when he left for work that morning. So I had to step it up a bit. But you’re right, when I get out of the bed and “get dressed” my day feels more productive and less lazy!
I am also a sahm/wahm. My work outside the home is as a fitness instructor so my attire since I left corporate america has changed. At home, relaxed. At “work” workout clothes. I have to go into the office a couple times a year and feel like I never know what to wear anymore! Heels? Not my sandals or comfy winter boots? I try to step it up on Sunday’s at church, but we can be comfy sexy and look cute on date nights.
Hi Tara,
I know what you mean… I sometimes wear boring un-sexy clothes during the day, when my boyfriend is at work, and just before he comes home BAM! I transform into a lovely lady! take the time for a shower, choose a nice dress (one that shows off some leg for more effect) and make sure my skin is soft.
Just recently, my boyfriend told me he hadn’t seen me sexy in a while… umph. Guess I’ll have to try harder!
I’m usually in a tee/tank and yoga pants/shorts. I can’t stand to wear jeans/pants that fasten in the house. They are so uncomfortable (pregnant or not) so I’m trying to make an effort to maybe do a dress or a skirt here and there around the house or put on a little makeup or something cute. When I leave the house, I do try to upgrade a little, lol.
I agree with you Tara. I work also at home so I don’t have problem on the outfits to wear. Any outfit will do for me since I am just working at home.
It’s so true that “dressing up” really does make you feel better! I’ve been trying to stock up on some semi-cute “at home” clothes for when this kiddo makes his debut so I don’t feel like a sloppy mom of three! (gulp)
Good luck with the new addition! (:
As I am not yet a mom I do enjoy getting insights into what I may experience in the future.
I used to be the exact same way. I had that go-to outfit–leggings and a tank because it was comfortable and suitable for my daily activities.
But I became to accustomed to it. I felt regular. Boring.
Then I went thrifting.. and shopping.. and just trying to brighten up my look. I got rid of my wavy bun and got my hair washed and straightened. I gave myself a much needed makeover that didn’t cost much, might I add.
I believe that when you look good, you feel good.
Well I work outside the house so I have to dress up everyday, but on the weekend its so hard for me to dress cute I’m too lazy, normally I wear leggings and oversize t or on a cute Sunday I will wear a maxi dress
I am so impressed – and a bit.depressed with myself – after reading this article! My go-to, every day, is yoga pants and a seasonal top (tank, short or long sleeved). I hate button pants, feel gross in jeans, and as much as I try just cannot embrace this post-baby body. Which is now two years old.
I catch a glimpse of myself and sometimes wonder what my husband thinks. I feel so unattractive most days. But, I feel like I’m wasting time if I do my hair and put on makeup to never leave the house.
My mom was always glamorous as a stay-at-homer, and she always says I should do a little more with myself because it would make me feel better. How can I find a nice balance between trying yet staying au natural?
My bf just told me I do not dress sexy enough… I.e. Kendra Wilkerson? I mever leave the house and take care of our 7 month old… how would I feel sexy. He said id get sex if I seduced him…
I love this idea… getting all dressed up and looking fierce at home, BUT it’s not practical for me. I have a 2 year old and a baby and I am constantly covered in mess from them. I don’t want to get a thousand stains on my nicer clothes, so they stay in the back of the closet for date night & life post “baby/toddler stage”. I wear jeans(or shorts) and tshirts pretty much everyday.
Glad to hear I’m not alone . I will reconfirm that it DOES feel stupid wasting my makeup (which cost money) when I don’t even leave the house! But i do always at least shower and dab on some perfume and my husband is always complimenting on how I smell when he comes home n gives the kiss?. Also..I STAY in leggings but I at least wear a push up bra and a tight v-neck which makes me feel a little sexier in my sahm uniform. ONCE in a while ill wear some jeans n its like whoa lol Its hard for us ladies but make sure ur man’s supportive and notices the small efforts