As someone whose business operates primarily online, it’s hard for me to be shocked by anything I see.
But when my friend alerted me to the page “Exposing Bum Ass Baby Daddies,” I just…quit. I quit life. This can’t be real.
Oh, but it is. They just started the page less than 24 hours after I type this and they ALREADY HAVE SEVEN THOUSAND FANS. Here’s a snippet:
I didn’t post the ones with the guy’s names or photos, but oh, yes, these women are “getting even” by putting their child’s father on blast. I put “getting even” in quotes because I’m trying to figure out what this accomplishes other than just letting you vent and let off steam. Who is this really hurting?
I wanted to write more about this but…my head hurts. I can’t deal with this. Check out the page and speak your piece in the comments. Is this…helpful…or just ridiculous?
I understand wanting to vent but they have to think about what they are writing and who will see it. What if a mother has a computer savy teen. Does she really want her child seeing these kinds of remarks about their father. It would only promote more hate towards the father and maybe even the mother.
I’m guessing that it will help out the women let off some steam, but in the long run, someone is going to see it, and not make a good conclusion.
1. Even if the baby daddy is dead beat, you have a child with him, and so your child could eventually read it later on. Would I want that? Nope.
2. It shows lack of judgment on the part of the women to have laid down with these guys in the first place. Things happen, but no needs you to air your dirty laundry in the street.
3. All it does is feed the hate between single moms and guys who don’t want to step up. Using the tried ol’ argument that the woman is crazy and bitter.
I can’t asset what these women are feeling towards these guys, since I don’t have that experience, but I would stay clear of it.
What the earlier two commenters said.
Also, it looks like there is a strong correlation between posting on that page and having no writing skills.
Melissa,
I noticed the same thing. If you are going to bash someone, regardless is they are a bum or not, at least use correct grammer and proper spelling.
Or at least not as bad as those posts. I honestly couldn’t even tell what a few sentences were saying. Okay, okay, I’m out of touch, but still!
Wow, Tara, you find all the juicy stuff that’s online. Now, I must say, the father of my child should be put on blast on that Facebook page but I probably will refrain and write my comments in a journal. Yes, the women are letting off steam and I’m not too sure they care who sees it.
I thought about going there and posting my childs deadbeat dad’s photo and everything,but I didn’t because I know that there are way worse stories than mine out there.My child’s father has always paid child support,but has never done anything else.My son is 3 and still does not know who his fatheris,and his father knows nothing about him by choice.It really hurts when my son asks where his dad is,but I know I got to just do the best I can as a single mom.I used to call him to try to get him to meet my son,but now I don’t because I know that he only pretended to care,and talk is cheap.Its been years since I’ve seen him or talked to him.He never did anything for my son besides what he was forced to.And he ended up getting arrested for something else for a short time,so I could have posted his mugshot on there which is online.
However,I think single mom’s need to remind themselfs that negative energy is still energy.Why waste you energy and time on a loser.Why let him think that you and your child are still wanting or needing him?Sometimes the only closure we will get is when the man gets run over by a bus or dies.Then,at least we can just tell our kids that he’s dead,and that'[s why he’s not here for you.
It will feel good for the moment but then what???I would never decide to tell the world how bad my baby daddy was or is,if he is a dead beat like you say,it will be clear for the world to see pretty soon and he will never be forgiven.