5 Ways To Strengthen Your Mother-Daughter Bond

By Sharmetra Pittman

Building a strong relationship with your daughter helps you, as a mom, have the strongest effect on influencing your daughter to make positive choices in life. How do you build a strong, positive, and thriving relationship with your daughter? Below are 5 simple tools to strengthen the foundation of your mother-daughter relationship and keep the flow of communication going.

1. Make time for the fun things in life!

We’re working. They’re in school. We want to rest. They have cheering practice. With all the demands on the family schedule, it can be easy to forget to have fun. But making time to have fun is one of the simplest ways to build your mother-daughter relationship. Share activities that both of you can enjoy, and use the time just to hang out and have fun, not to talk about serious issues. Try to do this at least 10 minutes a day and watch your bond become stronger.

2. Respect each other.

This one may be difficult for some traditional moms, because we were taught that children must honor and obey adults. Period. But in reality, in order to get respect, you must also give respect. This means not yelling, cursing, and name calling, or speaking to your daughter in ways that will kill her self-esteem. Remember, we are our daughters’ first example of a positive role model. We have to start being the mom that we hope they grow up to become.

3. Encourage, motivate, and inspire your daughter.

Even if you have the brightest kid in the school, there is always going to be someone or something that will try to break your daughter emotionally. Keep your daughter motivated and inspired. Be proud of the little things that she does. By encouraging your daughter, you are building your relationship and her self-esteem. These are both key components in making positive choices in life.

4. Tell the truth.

Just be honest with her. There are going to be times where she comes to you for information and it is your job to tell her the truth about it. Depending on your daughters’ age, you should use your discretion about how much of the truth you want to tell her, but make sure you are telling it like it is and not sharing a lie because you don’t feel comfortable talking about something.

5. Listen.

When your daughter wants to talk to you, it is imperative to listen. I know for a fact that it is so easy to tune her out, but this only led to my daughter feeling like I didn’t love her because I never listened to her. So now, no matter how weird the conversation is, I make it a point to stop what I’m doing and make eye contact with her so she knows that I’m actually listening. Even if my response is not what she’s looking for, she knows that I was truly listening and paying attention to her.

These five tools are not meant to be one-time events. Make them a part of your daily mother-daughter bonding routine and you will find your relationship growing in steady fashion. They may take some extra energy in the beginning, but make an effort to keep practicing and you will find yourself doing them more and more easily as they pay off with positive results.

Sharmetra Pittman is known as The Mother & Daughter Relationship Renovator. She is also a motivational speaker and the Creator of Love Life Enterprises. Coach Metra specializes in helping mothers and daughters build, maintain, and enhance their relationship by Rebuilding Bonds…Restoring Connections.