After I had my first child, there was a severe drought in the bedroom. I thought my husband (then-boyfriend) would die. We hit the four-month mark and there was no signs of any activity whatsoever.
What the heck happened?
I’ll tell you what happened. Exhaustion, coupled with postpartum depression, coupled with wedding planning, coupled with finishing up my undergraduate degree, coupled with job searching. That’s what happened.
All of a sudden, I felt like the sexy got sucked out of me overnight. I quit wearing perfume because my daughter developed eczema and I didn’t want any fragrances to irritate her skin. I stopped wearing chunky necklaces because I was breastfeeding. And breastfeeding by itself was a beast. I struggled with mastitis, where my boobs got engorged and I came down with fever, chills and other flu-like symptoms. We underestimated how much kids actually cost and that zapped my bank account for new clothes to fit my new body. I let motherhood get in the way of my womanhood and in the process, I lost sight of my sex drive.
Don’t get me wrong—I still tried to be the best wife I could. I would cook dinner nearly every night and give my husband back rubs when he shovels the driveway. I tried to keep the house clean. I gave him support when work was a headache. I would give him nice gifts and words of appreciation. But sex? Um…
So let’s figure this out, ladies. Did your sex life take a hit after kids or are you still humming along like nothing changed?
When I first had Zee my drive was through the roof. I wanted to get busy before I got the okay from the doctor. When she started growing a bit, we did hit a mini wall (1 month) but then things were back on track. It was a matter of having Mr. C do more to help out. These days, Mr. C still wants it more than I do, but when I want it he’s more than happy to due his “duty.”
I believe I responded on facebook but my answer is yes, kids ruin everything. Hahahaha
Sure did – still is. Sometimes I’m just too tired to do that too and feel like it can be a chore. I told my husband that him doing a load of laundry is sexy to me. And I didn’t mean actually seeing him to do but that it gives me more space and flexibility to do other things… like dote on him